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Sometimes best friends are united by their disagreement over politics
and religion. Wouldn't it be nice to live in a culture where old
friends could sit on the porch and argue politics like gentlemen, share a
tall cold glass of sweet tea and enjoy the back and forth of friendly
One wonders who it is that has convinced us all
that anyone who disagrees with us is our enemy. We live in a nation
founded on the recognition that each of us is different.
We have fifty
states so that you can find one that suits your political, social and
economic clothes simply by moving a few hundred miles or so. We put
limits on our government and balanced the three branches so that none of
them may declare themselves absolute power and that we all might agree
to disagree, preserve the right to be who and what we are and continue
to live in peace.
The greatest threat to peace and liberty today is the insidious belief that anyone who disagrees with me needs to be shut up. Storm's a comin' folk!
There was a possible woman named Leona Niemann contacted my wife on Facebook Chat today. She started out by telling Sheila she had "great news" for us. Sheila, a Facebook neophyte and very trusting soul called me to ask if I knew who this woman was. Having caught my share of scam attempts in the past, we led this person along to see if my suspicions were correct.
wife is very kind and trusting. She doesn't have a lot of defenses against liars, cheats and swindlers. When I describe Ms. Niemann as a "possible" woman, it's because she has a brand new account with no personal information, started just two days ago. The avatar picture is a shot of a harmless looking older lady with her husband as an avatar. Red Flag #1. The avatar was posted two days ago. Red Flag #2
"Leona Nieman is very likely a skinny Nigerian kid renting time in an Internet cafe'
or "she" is a pasty 19 year-old high school dropout sitting in his Mom's basement
and trying to scam bank account numbers from people who are under
stress or in pain. This person needs to be unfriended by everyone on
"her" list. You can bet the picture avatar isn't real.
There isn't any information about her on her page.
She started out her scam by starting a chat saying "I've
been trying to get in touch with you for several days. I have some great
news!" Red Flag #2. A lot of details are hinky too when she describes the great news. She calls it the "Facebook Powerball Grant". The name works on three psychological hooks:
Facebook - Everybody thinks Zuckerberg is so rich he needs to give his
money away to everybody like Bill Gates and Warren Buffett (also popular
free money scam names)
(2) Powerball - Sends visions of huge free winnings based entirely on luck.
Grants - The idea of grants plays on the commercials of Matthew Lesko, the skinny guy on TV in the puce suit
covered with question marks telling people there was all this free money
out there that was being given away. Matthew did scammers a huge
service with those commercials.
Then she tells you
that she saw your name on the winners list when UPS delivered her award.
Red Flag #4. Was that piles of cash in canvas sacks that were delivered to her and did a list of all the winners come in with the packing slip? UPS would never accept such a
delivery. It is such an obvious come-on, but the people they target are
usually people they believe to be inexperienced or fragile. My wife's response was classic Sheila. The scammer had got several of our Adventist friends on her list and tried to portray herself as "one of us", but made the mistake of using the abbreviation OMG. Sheila said no Adventist would use God's name in vain and on the Sabbath too! Then we unfriended her.
people a "Leona Neiman" (whoever the phony name refers to) should be consigned to a special level of hell. Preying on older
people, people suffering trauma and people who are merely trusting souls
places one in a very close, personal cooperative relationship with
P.S. I want to post a clarification. The Leona Nieman account I wrote about above is a hacked account of a very nice lady from Keene, Texas. There are two identical accounts in Leona's name on Facebook If you check the account, you'll see that one has fewer friends and was set up on Nov. 11. I've contacted Leona and the hacker who now knows we're on to him. If "Leona" contacts you with some "great news" about you receiving the "Facebook Powerball Grant", they're trying to scam you and it ain't Leona
There's an excellent post in today's "Art of Manliness" weblog called "The Power of Conversation". The post offers up the idea that our tech has altered our conversation in ways that prevent real conversation. I've noticed that in my own experience, especially since the early 90s as more and more people have gone online in a big way.
I grew up before texting, cell phones and blogging, but I embraced technology early, in large part because I could do all this communicating from home without a large expense for driving around places. As a 40 year veteran of the nonprofit wars, my funds for socializing have always been somewhat limited.
One problem, however, with conversation by social media. Twitter with its draconian limitation on the number of characters you may use and the rapid fire exchanges encouraged by social media which hides the majority of any post that's more than a few lines long, social media users are encouraged over time to communicated in an abbreviated style. Ultimately one winds up communicating in sound bites.
When you have to get it all into 140 characters, you tend toward sensational, slogans and advertising jingle type posts and reject arguments or even discussions that require a lot of explanation or detail. It's the conversational equivalent of slam, bam, thank you mam! There is little room in this sort of conversation for nuance and no room at all for body language, slips of the tongue or unconscious social cues of the sort that make in-person conversations so surprising.
Another problem with this type of communication is that it encourages a kind of verbal sparring style of talking, especially when you are exchanging text blocks with someone you may not agree with. As a rule, most of us dislike conflict as a rule. In public settings or private conversations, it can sometimes be difficult to disengage from a conversation without hearing something that challenges our opinions and beliefs or takes us out of our intellectual comfort zone.
In social media, it's easy to unfriend or block someone who says things we don't like. That's kind of unfortunate, because as we do that we soon find ourselves in an intellectual echo chamber from which we have banished any voice that challenges our comfortable belief system.
Some thing that's a good thing. These people join cults or become members of religions or political parties from which they exclude anything or anyone that might challenge their narrow ideology. In a way social media actually encourages people to bunch together with only those who reinforce their own ideas.
But that's not how we are designed to learn and grow intellectually or spiritually. Even God can bear to be questioned. It's significant that the premise of the oldest book of the Bible, The Book of Job, was about this very issue. Job didn't know why all the bad things were happening to him and he asked God for an explanation. Jobs friends, however, tried to shame him into NOT asking those questions. Instead they presumed to know the mind of God and to tell Job why he was being punished. In the end of Job, God offered no explanation to Job, but told him he wouldn't understand, but that he should trust him. He also had Job offering up sacrifices for his friends' sin of presuming to speak for God.
engaging with those with whom we disagree, we end up growing and
examining our own ideas more closely, even if we don’t ultimately change
our minds." say Brett and Kay McKay. This is why I seek out conversations with people with whom I disagree. It's cost me some readers who find longer articles like this particular Art of Manliness Article to be tedious and to avoid them.
our social media style discourages in-depth reading and thinking and leads us to avoid conversations with those we
dislike, we become stunted in our ability to carry out deeper level reasoning. As a result, we make ourselves vulnerable
to flimflam orators who tell us what we want to hear and we do not
examine the orator's real positions any
more deeply than can be perceived in the loud authoritative bellowing of a Hitler, a Stalin of
for that matter, a Donald Trump or a Hillary Clinton. The social media-trained
conversationalist instinctively shies away from someone like Ben Carson
whose communication style is deeper and more nuanced and lacks the self-assured bombast of his chief rival in the race for president. Carson, a man who knows better than to think we know everything we need to know just now, forces us to think more deeply than we are comfortable thinking. The twitter society doesn't like to read more than 140 words at a
I've decided to risk challenging the 140 character limit and write till I'm done with my thought. I may even start doing a video podcast, just so I can get in the voice inflection and the body language that backs up your own half of a good conversation.
I'm not going to do what a lot of self-appointed doomsayers do in this kind of post and condemn society, technology and everything else we can find that is suitable for demonizing. The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our technology or in society. The fault is in ourselves. If we wish to save our brains for something more useful than as a counterweight for our couch potato butts, we need to stretch our ability to piece thoughts together that are longer than 140 characters. Just saying. So, if you have any thoughts on this subject, please write them out fully in the comments section below. I read them all, even and especially the long ones. Some of the best conversations I've had so far on social media have been with people who challenge my assumptions and are willing to allow me to challenge theirs. I think, that if we all did that, perhaps our beloved country would not be as divided as it is today.
That awful power, the public opinion of a nation, is created in America by a horde of ignorant, self-complacent simpletons who failed at ditching and shoe-making and fetched up in journalism on their way to the poorhouse. -Mark Twain